STOP
Having the
SAME FIGHT
Break the Fight Cycle™ helps couples recognize escalation earlier,
stay calmer under pressure, reduce defensiveness,
and repair conflict faster.
Start now with
STOP MAKING IT WORSE: A Break the Fight Cycle™ Quick-Start (Modules 1–3)
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PRIVATE Online Training Program
✓ Self-paced
✓ Research-informed
✓ Lifetime access
4.8/5 from early participants · Gottman-informed research · Private · self-paced · lifetime access
A Relationship & Love Tips program created by Dr. K
Part of the Project SPICES ecosystem
STOP
Having the
Same Fight
Break the Fight Cycle™ helps couples recognize escalation earlier,
stay calmer under pressure, reduce defensiveness,
and repair conflict faster.
The program is currently being refined following beta testing.
Early participant feedback has been encouraging, and we are using those insights to
strengthen the final training experience.
Join the early-access waitlist to receive launch updates, first access, and founding-member information.
No payment today. No obligation to purchase.
PRIVATE Online Training Program
✓ Self-paced
✓ Research-informed
✓ Lifetime access
4.8/5 from early participants · Gottman-informed research · Private · self-paced · lifetime access
A Relationship & Love Tips program created by Dr. K
Part of the Project SPICES ecosystem
Does Any of This Sound Familiar?
You keep arguing the same issue in different words.
Small issues turn into bigger fights
One of us gets defensive quickly
One of us shuts down or withdraws
We say things we later regret
It takes too long to recover after an argument.
We feel misunderstood after difficult conversations
We love each other, but we feel stuck
Repeating conflict does not always mean the relationship is failing. It often means the two of you have entered a pattern that neither person knows how to interrupt.
Communication is NOT the whole problem.
Break the Fight Cycle
The Fight Begins Before the Argument Explodes
Most relationship advice starts by teaching couples what to say.
But communication tools are difficult to use once defensiveness, emotional pressure, withdrawal, or escalation has already taken over.
Break the Fight Cycle™ starts earlier.
It helps you recognize the pattern forming beneath the conversation so you can interrupt escalation before the disagreement becomes another painful fight.
What Research Shows
69%
Many relationship conflicts are perpetual rather than permanently solved.
(Source: Gottman Institute)
Defensiveness Predicts Distress
Defensiveness is one of the strongest predictors of ongoing relationship dissatisfaction.
Successful Couples Repair Faster
Healthy couples aren't conflict-free.
They simply recover faster after disagreements.
Break the Fight Cycle™ online training program helps you interrupt the pattern before the conversation breaks down.
Most advice teaches communication.
But communication is not the first problem.
Escalation is.
Once defensiveness takes over, productive communication becomes almost impossible.
Break the Fight Cycle™ teaches you how to recognize and interrupt escalation before the conversation breaks down.
What You'll Learn
A COMPLETE, SELF-PACED TRAINING EXPERIENCE
Learn at Your Pace. Practice in Real Life.
Break the Fight Cycle™ is a self-paced 14- 20 hour online training program you can complete individually or with your partner.
Step-by-step video lessons
Clear instruction that guides you through each stage of the Break the Fight Cycle™ framework.
Practical relationship exercises
Skills-based activities you can complete individually or practice with your partner.
Real conversation examples
Relatable examples that show how the tools can be used during everyday disagreements.
Conflict- Pattern Assessments
Tools that help you recognize the triggers, reactions, and patterns behind recurring arguments.
Guided Workbook Exercises
Structured activities that help you understand and apply what you are learning.
Personal Reflection Activities
Opportunities to examine your responses, emotional pressure points, and relationship habits.
Everyday Application Tools
Practical resources that help you use the framework outside the training.
The goal is not simply to finish the training.
The goal is to recognize your patterns, practice healthier responses, and apply the tools in real conversations.
Why Break the Fight Cycle™ Works
Break the Fight Cycle™ was designed to help couples recognize escalation earlier, regulate emotional reactions, and repair conflict before it damages connection. Built on:
✓ Conflict Pattern Research
✓ Emotional Regulation Principles
✓ Relationship Repair Processes
✓ Practical Communication Frameworks
This isn't theory. Research-informed and practically designed
It's a practical system designed for real conversations.
What Changed | Early Testers
I was an 8 out of 10 when escalating. After the course, I'm not a 3 and leaning towards a 2 out of 10. There's no need to escalate anymore.
J.O., Media Manager
"We'd have the same fight about money every few weeks — same words, different night. After module 3 I could feel it starting and actually said something different. We haven't had that fight in two months."
— M. & J., married 6 years
Break the Fight Cycle wins, hands down! Military and Veterans, this is for you!
M. C., Veteran
I get stressed at home and work. I take it out on my spouse more. This program helped me recognize my patterns before I exploded. Our conversations became calmer, and we repaired faster than we had in years.
CEO
This is the first time in my life I stopped yelling!
Traumatic Brain Injury Customer
FOR COUPLES WHO ARGUE ABOUT THE SAME THING, DIFFERENT WORDS
Choose Your Plan
Stop Making It Worse™
A Break the Fight Cycle™ Quick-Start (Modules 1–3)
$97
One-time instant access
Already purchased Stop Making It Worse™? Upgrade for just $100 — your $97 is credited automatically.
For couples who want to understand their conflict style before committing to more.
$400+ value
Relationship Conflict Assessment
Relationship Conflict Report
C.A.L.M.™ Method Training
Personalized Awareness Insights
Action Plan Workbook
Outcome:
Learn why conflict escalates and how to stay calmer during difficult conversations.
No contracts
Break the Fight Cycle™
$197 for waitlist members only
$397 at public launch
Couples who are tired of having the same argument and want a proven system to communicate, repair, and reconnect.
$1,000+ value
Everything from STOP MAKING IT WORSE
Escalation Style Assessment ($97)
Escalation Style Report
Break the Fight Cycle™ Workbook ($147)
Full Video Training Program ($497)
C.A.L.M. Method™
SAFE Model™
I+CARE Model™
Real Conversation Examples
Lifetime Access
Outcome:
Learn how to recognize escalation earlier, reduce defensiveness, communicate more clearly, repair conflict faster, and rebuild trust after difficult conversations.
No contracts
Break the Fight Cycle™ Academy
$5,997 for
$2,997
Coaching and Accountability
Everything in Break the Fight Cycle™, plus:
Accountability System
Advanced Relationship Workshops
Bonus Trainings
Priority Access to New Programs
6x 30-minute Coaching Sessions
Outcome:
Accelerate transformation with coaching and support.
No contracts
How Many More Times Do You Want to Have the Same Fight?
Every repeated argument follows a pattern.
Patterns can be changed.
Imagine handling difficult conversations with less defensiveness, faster repair, and greater trust.
Start Break the Fight Cycle™ today.
Frequent Asked Questions
Will this help if my partner won't participate?
Yes. While the program works best when both partners learn the skills, meaningful change can begin when even one person changes how they respond to escalation.
Is this counseling?
No. Break the Fight Cycle™ is an educational, skills-based online training program. It is not therapy or a substitute for professional mental-health care.
How long does it take?
Plan for approximately 14–20 hours to complete the full program, including the video lessons and workbook exercises. Completion time will vary depending on your pace and how deeply you work through the reflection and practice activities.
What if we've been struggling for years?
Long-standing patterns often feel permanent, but recurring conflict usually follows recognizable cycles. The program helps identify and interrupt those cycles.
Why is Break the Fight Cycle important?
Because most relationship conflict does not get better simply because time passes. Repeated unresolved conflict can erode trust, emotional safety, communication, and connection. Break the Fight Cycle™ gives you a practical system to identify the pattern and interrupt it before it creates more damage.
Do both partners need to take the program?
No. One person can begin recognizing personal triggers, reactions, and conflict patterns. Participation from both partners may create more opportunities to practice the tools together.
Is this only for couples?
No. It can help married couples, dating couples, engaged couples, individuals, parents, leaders, and anyone who wants to understand and improve their conflict patterns.
What do I get when I enroll?
Full training access, workbook, assessment tools, implementation exercises, relationship frameworks, and future updates.
What if I do the program and it doesn’t help?
If you complete the complete online training program including completing the worksheets, apply the tools, and believe it did not provide value, you're protected by the program guarantee. (We guarantee it works if you truly apply it.)
TRY IT RISK FREE
The First Steps Promise™
We're confident you'll recognize the value of the Break the Fight Cycle™ system from the very beginning.
Complete Modules 1 and 2 and the accompanying workbook exercises within 30 days.
If you don't believe you've gained meaningful insight into your conflict patterns and practical tools to interrupt unhealthy escalation, simply contact us for a full refund.
No complicated process. Just our commitment to delivering real value.
🎓 Graduate Rewards Program
Complete the entire Break the Fight Cycle™ program. (Complete the workbook. Apply the tools. Then share your experience (testimonial)
Qualified graduates may receive exclusive rewards, such as:
Alumni discounts, Future course credits, Academy discounts, Bonus training, and/or Early access to new programs
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